 I have a friend who is an amazing coach. She puts out amazing content to help people level up their lives and start taking action. She is inspiring, down to earth and unafraid to show her authentic self. I love following her on social media because of this. But, she said something that irked me today. And it’s stuck with me for a couple of hours so I thought it best to write about it!
She was talking about how today she didn’t let the weather, specifically the cold, stop her from getting a workout in. Awesome! This is definitely not what irked me! What made sit up and take notice, was that she apologized for the cold she was experiencing because it wasn’t as cold as other parts other country (or world!). It was a mere 35℉ (1℃). Your probably thinking that I’m a loony and that shouldn’t push my buttons. But here’s the thing, we are constantly apologizing for things that we have no business being sorry for. My friend shouldn’t have to apologize because her version of cold isn’t the same as somebody else’s. Just as you shouldn’t have to apologize for what you’re doing well in your life. You shouldn’t have to apologize for a messy house or for standing up for yourself or for putting yourself first. This constant apologizing takes our power away. When we accomplish something we should embrace and celebrate it, not preface it with an apology. By apologizing for the circumstances of others, we are enabling them to complain and wallow where they are at. If people are going to have a pissing contest about how cold it is where they live, let them. Be mindful of your words, they have the ability to empower us or bring us down. Your achievements deserve to be celebrated and you have no responsibility to anyone to quantify those wins! So yep, that was kind of a loony reaction to something so small, but when we are truly present with how our words, actions, and inactions affect us we bring the best version of ourselves to the front of the line. And that’s exactly where we need to be!
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 I was anxious before leaving on our holiday to Australia. In general, I don’t like to make this trip on my own. It’s a long time by myself and I’m not super chatty with other travellers, so I spend a lot of time just not talking… which is kind of weird. This time heading home to Australia from Montana, I was not traveling alone per se, as my almost 9 month old was along for the ride.
When I booked the flights, Coen was about 3 months old and just a blob. I couldn’t imagine that he would be very mobile and very curious about everything. The unknown of how he was going to respond was giving me anxiety. We had flown before, a quick trip to the midwest, at around 6 months. He did great! But, the flight was at least 4 times shorter than the one we were about to take and he was barely mobile. Looking back I had nothing to be worried about. I did, however, utilize some tips and tricks that I’m certain helped make the trip a piece of cake. These are what I want to share with you today!
I hope this helps ease some of your anxiety when traveling solo with your little. While the trip was still hard… it was 28 hours of travel!… it was pretty much smooth sailing the whole way. While I can’t guarantee that if you follow these steps it’ll be easy for you (or for me the next time we go!), hopefully they will ease some stress that goes with traveling with a little one. If you have done anything else to ease the burden of travel with your little one, I’d love to know what you did. Drop it below in the comments! Listen to The Mama Shift Podcast HERE  It’s been a struggling getting up to full speed after coming back from holiday. Yes, there is the excuse of jet lag for myself and for Coen, but it shouldn’t take three weeks to get back to feeling ready to tackle my life and to start kicking ass again. This is so indicative of what happens in our life. We get thrown off course, for whatever reason - sickness, our kids, our spouse, our work, our extended family, holiday - and the getting back on track takes WAYYYY too long. I have a theory for why this is, keep reading if you’re curious about what it is.
Our insecurities kick in. That voice in our head that says, ‘You shouldn’t be doing this, you’re not good enough, smart enough, interesting enough… {insert insecurity here}.’ I’ve been back for 3 weeks and I’m yet to record a podcast. It’s easy to blame time or tiredness or my family. But, if I’m 100% honest, it’s because I’ve reverted back to thinking that I’m not good enough and I have nothing to say. Even though I know exactly what my first 2 or 3 episodes are going to be about! We push aside the things that scare us for the things that we know and then rationalize that we need to get other things done, like laundry. Nobody ever fucking regretted not doing laundry, but you will regret putting off that book you want to write. So how do you push past those insecurities? You just start. Start with something that you know you can do. It’s all about the little wins, the base hits, that you can get without even having to flex your decision making muscle. Maybe you want to get back to exercising after falling into the holiday pit of parties, stress and extra family time. Start by getting outside with your kids. Play with them, take them for walks and just move your body. It’s not officially exercise, but moving daily is way better than sitting and watching them play on the floor. Then you can get a little more dedicated - go back to the gym once per week, or do squats/lunges while your doing the laundry. There is so many ways to incorporate extra movement into your day that literally requires no extra thought, time or planning on your behalf. Ok one more example. You have falling off the wagon of starting the business you were super fired up about. Take 2 minutes out of your day and find 1 or 2 things that you can do that will reignite the fire. Maybe it’s committing to writing daily for your blog, or it’s spending 10 minutes recording content. It doesn’t have to be perfect, fuck it doesn’t even have to be good! I was reading or listening to Seth Godin (I can’t remember which), and he said there is no such thing as writer’s block. ‘Interesting…’ I thought. He went on to say, you can always write something. Not everything you do will be good, to be frank, most of will be crap. But, getting into the daily habit of performing a task is going to move you towards the targets you have. While I’m sharing this blog post to you, I’m mostly talking to myself. I see this hesitancy, this insecurity in me on a daily basis, and I just need to start. So let’s start together. Let’s put the laundry, the dishes and whatever mindless, endless household task that you’re doing that is taking priority, aside, and start working on the things that really light us up and bring us joy! Listen to The MamaShift Podcast HERE |
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