quit apologizing

I have a friend who is an amazing coach. She puts out amazing content to help people level up their lives and start taking action. She is inspiring, down to earth and unafraid to show her authentic self. I love following her on social media because of this. But, she said something that irked me today. And it’s stuck with me for a couple of hours so I thought it best to write about it!

She was talking about how today she didn’t let the weather, specifically the cold, stop her from getting a workout in. Awesome! This is definitely not what irked me! What made sit up and take notice, was that she apologized for the cold she was experiencing because it wasn’t as cold as other parts other country (or world!). It was a mere 35℉ (1℃). Your probably thinking that I’m a loony and that shouldn’t push my buttons. But here’s the thing, we are constantly apologizing for things that we have no business being sorry for. My friend shouldn’t have to apologize because her version of cold isn’t the same as somebody else’s. Just as you shouldn’t have to apologize for what you’re doing well in your life. You shouldn’t have to apologize for a messy house or for standing up for yourself or for putting yourself first.

This constant apologizing takes our power away. When we accomplish something we should embrace and celebrate it, not preface it with an apology. By apologizing for the circumstances of others, we are enabling them to complain and wallow where they are at. If people are going to have a pissing contest about how cold it is where they live, let them.

Be mindful of your words, they have the ability to empower us or bring us down. Your achievements deserve to be celebrated and you have no responsibility to anyone to quantify those wins! So yep, that was kind of a loony reaction to something so small, but when we are truly present with how our words, actions, and inactions affect us we bring the best version of ourselves to the front of the line. And that’s exactly where we need to be!

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